“If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.”
― Yogi Bhajan
Everything stated here is reflective of my own perspectives & experiences around love, heartbreak & human sexuality. I also figured being that this is Scorpio Season, and Scorpio rules the genitals and sex, this as a good time to traverse this topic.
I deeply believe we are spiritual beings having a human experience and we are here to connect with one another to learn, grow & evolve into the highest and most powerful expressions of who we are: through the light and the dark.
Every person you have ever experienced in your life, including the ones you are experiencing now, you have called towards yourself perfectly. In some way or another, they are there to mirror aspects of you for the sake of evolution and growth. Everything comes down to perspective and if we are willing to see every being, even the ones we can’t stomach, as some aspect of us.
I preface this because I think it’s a key component in understanding the deeper essence around sex and relationships.
The realm of sexuality and relationships with men have been my deepest teachers, often times with a lot of pain, confusion and suffering involved in the mix. But, I was always willing to take accountability on some part of the dynamic as well as, be responsible for my own happiness and growth. This attitude is how I sit with all of you today, taking on the study of the mystical, personal development, astrology, tarot, spirituality, etc. etc. etc. these things were all catalyzed for me because of the pain and confusion i’ve experienced from sex and relationships. Hence, there is perfect order in everything, even the darkest darkest, leads you, to your light.
Relationships are mirrors and teachers and that’s it.
They are there to show you parts of yourself that you don’t exactly have to face when you are cruising solo. They are also there for mutual enrichment, love, joy and comfort. Relationships are contracted before you even get here - they are soul bonds and soul recognition. When you feel like you know and understand someone on a deep level even when you don’t know them very well, chances are you do know them very well, just not from this incarnation.
Some relationships are energetically meant to remain in our lives for a very long time, some are only meant for a very short time. This is all dependent on the energy and contract inherent in the bond between two beings, not one’s worth or value.
When something doesn’t work out with someone, don’t look at it as a question of your worth or their worth, it’s energy and it’s contract. Be willing to look at it as, our time is or was complete for now, what did I learn? What was I able to give? What can I take away from this experience with this being? Can I wish them love, peace & respect?
If you are having trouble healing or moving past something, try EFT Tapping.
Now onto sex, I look at sex in an interesting way. Sex is our experience of higher energy, we are beings of energy and whenever we merge with another persons body, not only does it feel physically good, it’s also because on the energetic soul level, we are remembering what we are: totality, total and complete energy. This is why being human can be so challenging sometimes because we are here to experience ourselves not only as singular, but also, dualistically. Do you catch what I am saying here? Hence, sex and the merging of two energy fields feels amazing because in essence, it reminds us of what we are.