Light creates a shadow. Every Sun sign of the Zodiac has their strengths and their weaknesses. Understanding the underbelly aspect of our beings is important- it’s important because it helps us have compassion for our humanity and compassion for the humanity in others. Being human is not easy- in truth, we are wired to survive, not thrive. We live in a time now, where our consciousness has evolved enough that we are concerned with thriving, not just surviving. I love Astrology because, I truly believe it embodies the wisdom within it to grant us compassion and a sense of humor about life and ourselves. It’s a tool for understanding the Self and understanding others. Read on, have a look at the shadow side of the your sign and how you can better integrate it into your being according to the Cosmos. (Check up on the signs of people in your life as well and see where you can be a bit more understanding!)
**Please meet this piece of writing with a sense of humor. I wrote this partly as assistance but also with the spirit of being able to poke a bit of fun at ourselves too. You are entitled to disagree with your shortcomings & write me an email if I come off in any way offensive :) xo **
Aries - Selfishness
Aries yes, you are number one in the Zodiac but this doesn’t mean that you are the only one. The unconscious side of the Aries personality can be completely asleep that other people exist or that they have any negative impact on the feelings or thoughts of others. To Aries, it is often “The Aries Show”, spotlight shining on them, with (hopefully) a full house audience at all times. How to Integrate: Integrate your Libra Side with consideration to the “other” party. Most likely the people in your life find your self centeredness endearing, or they have gotten to understand it, and still love you unconditionally. Consider asking other people what’s going on in their life, how they think and feel about important topics or how you can be of service to them at times.
Taurus - Overindulgence
Taurus, you are a Venus ruled sign and what this means is you love all things pleasurable, all things of the senses. This can sometimes stop you dead in your tracks, cloud your thinking from all that Vino, or throw a wrench in your vibe because you have one too many lovers around... what are you running from with all of that sensuality? When it’s coming from a grounded place it is truly one of your most remarkable traits, when it’s imbalanced, it can lead to life not moving forward in the way you truly know it can. How to Integrate: Moderation. And then perhaps Moderation of your Moderation. Life is beautiful and it can be a constant party, but if there are spaces where you feel in your gut that you aren’t living out to your full potential, reign back on one or more of your overindulgences.
Gemini - Dr. Jekyl, Mr. Hyde
Gemini, what would you say people pin point about you most or give you a hard time about? You are the Twins according to the Zodiac, you inhabit dualistic energies in your personality that can most likely be very confusing to most. You are a mutable sign, it can be hard for you to pick a side, most of all within yourself so sometimes you will forego picking a side at all and just float. At times, this energy can turn quickly and without warning and leave people bewildered or maybe even hurt. How to Integrate: Gemini, you are truly quite magnificent because having more than one energy occupy your personality is a challenging thing, and no other sign in the zodiac has this as prevalent as you do. Self Awareness is key- if you can pin point a space in your life where you shift energetic direction without warning, decide if it empowers or hurts your experience or your relationships, and go from there.
Cancer - Oversensitivity
Cancer, you are ruled by the Moon. The Moon shifts zodiac signs every two to three days. It experiences more dynamic energy in a month than most of the signs, hence, this can make you a bit edgy as your ruler is in constant flux. You are also water, you key into the energy and emotions of other people constantly whether you want to or not. You are fierce as a cardinal sign but also extremely vulnerable. You are dualistic and at times this can feel overwhelming. Feelings are like water according to the esoteric and human beings can’t breath under water, so you’ve gotta learn to ride the waves or get some scuba gear. How to Integrate: Take less things personally. Ground yourself regularly. Be concerned with getting your bare feet on the Earth, and less concerned about what everyone in your life is doing... take care of you and don’t over extend yourself to the point of exhaustion.
Leo - Pride
Leo, there is nothing wrong with a bit of pride as long as it isn’t coming from a bruised ego or a sense of entitlement. You are the leader of the Zodiac in many ways, and you rule the heart chakra, your ruling planet is the Sun which is the life giving planet. You do have many reasons to feel like the pride of the pack. Leo’s have to learn how to lead and rule from the heart or a sense of gentleness. Not everyone gets it, not everyone has it down naturally like you often feel that you do. How to Integrate: Patience with others is a hallmark of the stuff Leo’s can be invited to work on throughout their lives. Cooling down the fire, the judgement or leaving others in the dust, see where you can help and guide.
Virgo - Hypermiticulousness
Virgo’s are known to have a hypersensitivity to most everything around them. This makes you genius by way of aesthetic, but the borderline energy of control meets obsessiveness can drive you and most around you a little bonkers. Virgo, you are a complex energy because in essence your personality is Earth meets Air. Earth: grounded, rigid, compact, orderly. Air: chaotic, nonattached, hyper active, Mercurial. Your ruling planet is Mercury, and when Mercury meets Earth, watch out. You get you, the Virgo. Genius but obsessed. You get my drift? Hopefully you paid attention to my message and not the type face utilized to write this blog. ;) How to Integrate: Relax. Meditate. Eat well. Be gentle with yourself. You Virgo, are rough on yourself (that’s the Earth energy coming through..) and you are often your own biggest critic just as much as you can be others, too.
Libra - Lack of Boundaries
Libra, here is what I feel around your sign: you are Venus ruled, you seek harmony, you seek balance, you do NOT often like confrontation, you seek to avoid it. What is most important for you is setting boundaries (you can learn from your Aries opposites on that one..), not so much with other people but with your closest relationships. Libra’s are represented by the Scales, but what this means is that you are concerned with balance in a lifetime, it doesn’t so much mean that you have mastered it. Your medicine is understanding how to balance between you and the people you love, and making sure the people closest to you are truly worthy of your love, time, admiration, respect and so on... sometimes you see the best in people that isn’t really there. How to Integrate: Boundaries. Know yourself and you will know the Universe. What do you need from others in relationships, and understanding how to walk away when you aren’t getting it.
Scorpio - Holding Grudges for Eternity
Scorpio, everyone gets wronged now and again. To you, and according to the traits of your sign, this is an unwavering f*ck off and you can sometimes make someone pay for lying or wronging you. The Death Card (13) is the corresponding Tarot energy for you. The key symbol in the Death Card is surrender, transformation, letting go. It represents Ego Death and a willingness to dissolve. I can’t help but think this is a bit of a message for the Scorpios the card represents. Also, letting go of judgement around people who don’t seem to “get it”. Scorp’s you are definitely brilliant but not everyone has your matched level of intelligence and depth, so take it easy on the rest of us. ;) How to Integrate: Gentleness with others as well as yourself. Releasing the need to be right and to know everything about everything. Trusting your brilliance and worth without needing to hold it over anybody’s head.
Sagittarius - Nonrealistic
Ok, before you throw your computer at me or out a window hear me out :) So as a Sagittarius you are ruled by the planet Jupiter. Jupiter is known in Western Astrology as a benefic planet, the planet of good fortune, good luck, good vibes, etc. So what could go wrong, asks you the Sagittarius?? Well, will all that good vibe energy sometimes the Sag will over look the details, skip a few steps, throw on those rose colored glasses and just go to town with little thought to the full, “realistic” process (that’s Saturn’s job according to Astrology) that it can take to actually bring things to fruition. Sometimes all of that optimism serves you Sag, but when all the sudden things feel at a dead stand still this little tid bit part of your Astrological Personality could point the reason to why. How to Integrate: Channel your Saturnian Nature. Get real on the details. Write out lists, protocols, sh*t to bring your million good ideas into reality for yourself and everyone around you. We all want to bask in your brilliance, we just need you to ground down and get to work, step by step!
Capricorn - Controlling
I know this one well, because I grew up with a Capricornian mom (she is the greatest, but I definitely know your sign well ;) Capricorn, you are ruled by the planet Saturn. Saturn is the strict teacher, the wise old soul, as quoted in my article with The Culture Trip about Saturn Returns, Saturn is like a personal trainer who kicks your ass but you’re grateful they do because you get great abs out of the situation. Caps, your whole vibe through life is letting go control, surrendering knowing how to do everything and calling in your “Beginners Mind” as they say in Buddhism. This can be tricky for you, but you let go of the anxiety and intensity required when holding up the entire Universe by yourself. How to Integrate: Relax. Deep breathing. Activities in addition to your very hectic, Captain of Life schedule so you can breath and let yourself receive from time to time. Nurturance is key, letting others nurture you and hold you is good too.
Aquarius - Disconnection
Aquarius, you to me are one of the most interesting signs just like your ruling planet, Uranus. Uranus is the rebel and the humanitarian. Aquarius’s often like to push the status quo, they are other worldly in their way. Aquarians can often be concerned with the entire picture, the long run and all of humanity. You are an Air sign, which rules the intellect, not a water sign which rules the emotions... Aquarians can sometimes be so concerned with the well being of someone they have never met, versus the person sitting right in front of them. That’s because it is apart of your Astrological vibe to move humanity forward, to care about the whole, and often times it is veryyyy hard to do that if you get caught up in everyone else’s emotional story, including your own. How to Integrate: If this has ever posed any issue for you, do similar to what I posed for the Aries- do a little exercise of being present with the people in your life, especially those you are in intimate contact with on a regular basis. Meditate to remove emotional blocks and to get into deeper touch with your feels.
Pisces - Escapism
Last but never least are my Pisces. Pisces, similar to the Aquarius’s you are also other worldly beings. Sometimes the very stark rules and intensity of life here on Earth just do not suit you. You are Neptune ruled and Neptune correlates to the Universe, to the rules of lightness of being and being totally nebulous. So what could go wrong? Well, Pisces are water signs and can be submerged in the realm of sensitivity and feeling on a regular basis. Alcoholism, drug addiction, victim mentality or just plane escapism can often be the traits of your Neptunian ruled Zodiac sign to get away from the dense energy that we are often subject to on Earth. I was told once (because my Venus is in Pisces which means I am the most sensitive human to ever walk the planet...) that Pisces as the fish, truly have no defenses. Fish don’t confront enemies in the natural world, they simply swim away. This can cause problems for you dear Pisces if you don’t face issues or people in your life head on from time to time. How to Integrate: Set clear boundaries with yourself on what you will tolerate and what you won’t, then you’ll set solid boundaries with people in your life and won’t have to run away from them. Consider natural solutions to getting your Piscean need to otherworldly vibes like yoga, exercise or Yerba Matte versus drugs or alcohol. Grounding yourself in your body is your most effective way to move forward with power in your life.